7 ways to feel party confident when you go solo

7 ways to feel party confident when you go solo

No plus one? No problem. Though going to a party on your own can be daunting, these expert tips and tricks will soon boost your confidence

No plus-one? No problem. Though being 50+ and going to a party on your own can be daunting, these expert tips and tricks will soon boost your confidence.

1. It’s all in the prep

Get a heads-up from the host on who’s on the guest list, then do some research ahead of the party (social media is your friend in this). Where are they from? What are their interests? What do you have in common? Just one key fact can start a conversation.

2. Deal with your nerves

Staying calm will make you feel comfortable. “When we get nervous we hold our breath, which can lead to panic,” says life coach Becki Houlston (beckihoulston.com). “Before you go into the party activate 7/11 breathing. Breathe in for the count of seven and out for 11, then you’ll enter the room feeling in control.”

3. Remember, you’re brilliant

“When life has been all about other people it’s easy to forget what you have to offer,” says Becki. “Reminding yourself of some interesting things that have happened to you or some funny stories will give you more confidence and ammunition when you’re chatting.” Don’t forget that everyone’s in the same boat. “We all get nervous but some hide it better than others. Let that give you courage,” advises Becki.

4. Stand tall and smile

Turns out your teachers were right when they told you to stop slumping. “A straight spine strengthens resolve and gives you real presence,” says psychotherapist Hilda Burke (hildaburke.co.uk). “It sends the message that you're friendly and open to being approached.”

Positive body language puts both you and others at ease so smile, make eye contact and nod while others are talking. Beforehand secure any dentures with Fixodent for teeth that look and feel natural, and brush with Oral-B 3D White Luxe Glamorous Shine toothpaste for a party-perfect smile.

5. Pay compliments

Everyone loves a little attention, so pay other guests a compliment to break the ice. Something as simple as, “That’s a great bag, where did you buy it?” can spark a conversation about tastes, travel, a recent trip… and then you’re up and running.

6. Look good, feel fabulous

Don’t pile on the make-up. Bring out your eyes with complementary defining colours, apply a bright lipstick for impact and keep skin glowing and looking firm with a lightweight product such as Olay Regenerist 3 Point Treatment Cream.

Think of fashion as armour. “Pick a favourite outfit that fits well and always makes you feel gorgeous,” says style expert Jo Payton (www.fashiondetective.co.uk). “Give it a fresh twist with statement jewellery or wow-factor shoes.” And wearing Always Discreet Liners will give you that extra bit of confidence when the champagne is flowing.

7. Fake it ’til you make it

Get into a party state of mind by being proactive. Offer to help the host with drinks, food or music. Join in if there’s an activity, such as dancing, an auction or casino table. It might be tough at first but acting confident makes you feel confident.

What are your keys to feeling party confident? Let us know in the comments section below.

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