Getting back out there and feeling confident

Getting back out there and feeling confident

Being back on the dating market isn’t easy, but simple tricks can help, from silencing your inner critic to looking your best (with a little help from Olay!).

Let’s face it, dating isn’t always easy when you’re young, so it can seem particularly daunting when you’re starting again, after being out of it for a while. Perhaps the most important thing to remember is that there isn’t a person out there who feels 100% confident 100% of the time (and if there was they’d be unbearable!). However, there are simple things we can all do to boost our self-esteem.

Silence your inner critic

You know the little voice inside your head that tells you that you’re rubbish at first dates or that you ramble when you try to tell a joke? Well, tell it to pipe down! Instead of these negative thoughts, try to be your own cheerleader instead. Affirmations may seem a bit New Agey but there’s strong evidence to show that if we keep repeating positive things (“I’m fun to be with”, “I’m going to have a good time”) we start to believe them.

Look your best

Okay, we all know that it’s what’s on the inside that really matters but there’s no doubt that looking our best is a real confidence booster. Start by taking a look at your skincare regime. Olay Regenerist is specially designed to give you dramatically younger-looking skin, and there are all kinds of goodies from serums to eye treatments.

Once your skin is glowing, how about turning your attention to your tresses? There’s nothing like a great haircut to make you feel a million dollars. Finally, you need a knock ’em dead outfit. This should to be something you feel really comfortable in (not trackie-pants kind of comfortable!).

Feel the fear… and do it anyway

It’s natural to have worries about dating, from getting rejected to finding it hard to make conversation, and there’s power to be found in acknowledging these fears rather than just trying to pretend they don’t exist. It doesn’t mean the fears should stop you doing anything (quite the opposite), just that they’ll seem smaller when they’re faced up to.

Build a life beyond dating

Happy, confident people have rich, multi-faceted lives, so make sure you spend lots of time on your favourite sports and hobbies. These new challenges will stretch and fulfil you and make you more confident generally.

It’s also important to make lots of time for family and friends. Being around people who love you is great for your self-esteem.

Fake it ’til you make it

Believe it or not, acting as if you’re confident can actually make your more confident for real.

So next time you feel a little wobbly, just remember to act as if your self-esteem is sky high, and you won’t just fool everyone else, you’ll fool yourself too.

Watch your language

Body language that is. Good posture gives off an air of confidence. If you’re standing up, think of being in your superwoman pose (though perhaps minus the cape!) – legs shoulder width apart, back straight, standing tall. Try not to be too restless or fidgety as this makes you seems nervous.

Practice makes perfect

The best way to feel more confident about dating is to go on lots of dates. Try to keep a sense of humour about the ‘bad’ ones too. If nothing else, they make great ‘war stories’ to share with your mates!

What are your confidence tricks?

Let us know in the comments section below.

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