How to get your family to help with the housework

How to get your family to help with the housework

If you always end up doing the lion’s share of the household chores, it’s time to change that. Here’s how…

If you always end up doing the lion’s share of the household chores, it’s time to change that. Here’s how…

As much as you love your family, it’s hard not to feel fed up if you seem to spend your life picking up after everyone else and taking on the domestic responsibilities single-handedly. Especially when your children are young adults perfectly capable of filling the dishwasher themselves – not to mention husbands! So, here’s how to tackle the issue so everyone is happy…

Have an honest discussion

Be frank with both the family and yourself – when was the last time you actually asked for more help? It’s easy to get stuck in the routine of doing everything simply because that’s how you’ve always done it, but as the children grow up and move on, the rules and roles need to evolve.

Remind everyone in your brood – from your other half to your grandkids to yourself – that you all deserve a clean house so should all contribute to this goal.

An open discussion, as opposed to random pleas (or shouts) will encourage them to each embrace their updated roles. You could even draw up a household chores planner so everyone knows what’s expected of them.

Ditch the guilt

Helping out around the house isn’t blighting the lives of your husband or children – even if they might say otherwise. Research tells us that young people actually feel happier when they make a meaningful contribution to the family. A US study found that teens reported higher levels of happiness when they provided more help around the house, and did not find this work stressful.

Update your standards

You usually clean the cooker a certain way, so, of course, you think that’s the way it should be done. But remember that, while their process may be different, if it does get the job done do not go over it again.

Make it feel like a breeze

The easier a chore seems, the more likely everyone is to get stuck in, so stock up on products that make everyday tasks feel simple.

For that always-growing laundry pile, Ariel Pods are a smart buy. They’re pre-measured to distribute exactly the right amount of detergent, and have a 3-in-1 action that is able to clean, tackle all manner of stains and brighten your clothes with ease. Simply throw it in the drum followed by the laundry, and hit ‘go’. Not even the laziest of teenagers can complain about doing that.

Be a team

The overall message husband and children are receiving by being part of the housework rota is that being a family means pitching in for the greater good. If everyone chips in and there is a fair domestic division of labour, you can all relax together more often. It’s win-win.

Good luck!

What do you do to encourage your family to help out at home? Let us know your top tips in the comments section below.

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We all have a job

Lisa 29/06/2017

I have found in our house we all have a job each mine is our living room, my hubby kitchen & my son the dining room i do the bathroom and washing thats only because i wont trust they will do it right lol

Lifes too short

Nicola 19/05/2017

Everyone picks up after themselves as they go, it's quicker and easier. When polishing, vacuuming, washing etc everyone has a job which is different each time. We play music to do the chores along to which lightens the mood making it seem quick and fun :)



I have had a rota in my home for the past 15 years. After eating they all have a job in each room, they carry on for a full week then on Saturday they swap according to the rota. This way they all get to do all the jobs. As for washing, I do the washing but it stops there, they have to iron, fold and put them away themselves. My advice is start young. Give them chores. This way it is a norm for them. If you expect them to suddenly start when they are older its going to be hard.

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